In the Buddhist teachings, the dharma, there is a metaphor called “Indra net”. A mesh made of delicate threads that surrounds reality and every connection between two threads has a diamond. All diamonds are related to each other. Each diamond is reflected in all the other diamonds and all the other diamonds are reflected in the same diamond. All diamonds affect each other and each and every one of them. When you touch one diamond you touch the other diamonds. William Blake wrote a song that sees the whole world in one grain of sand. The reality you experience exists only for you and it influences and changes depending on how you manage your life. If we make your life as a metaphor as a movie, then everyone else is an actor who embodies different characters in the movie you write and direct. By the same metaphor, you portray a character in a film of each one of the others that one directs and writes. What affects you affects others and what affects others affects yourself. We are all interrelated and we all influence each other. And so, by changing your reaction to reality, you can change reality, change the script of your life's movie and create a new movie free from anxiety and mental pain.
For example, you are at work and the boss comes and talks to you in a disrespectful way. Your response is anger, you feel unjust. The horrible Boss experience is a completely neutral experience...